{"id":2447,"date":"2018-12-23T18:25:10","date_gmt":"2018-12-23T23:25:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blogs.ams.org\/phdplus\/?p=2447"},"modified":"2018-12-23T18:25:10","modified_gmt":"2018-12-23T23:25:10","slug":"hello-from-parental-leave","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.ams.org\/phdplus\/2018\/12\/23\/hello-from-parental-leave\/","title":{"rendered":"Hello from Parental Leave"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Well. That happened.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/blogs.ams.org\/phdplus\/files\/2018\/12\/IMG_0141-1.jpg\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-2448 size-medium\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/blogs.ams.org\/phdplus\/files\/2018\/12\/IMG_0141-1.jpg?resize=300%2C214\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"214\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/blogs.ams.org\/phdplus\/files\/2018\/12\/IMG_0141-1.jpg?resize=300%2C214&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/blogs.ams.org\/phdplus\/files\/2018\/12\/IMG_0141-1.jpg?resize=768%2C547&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/blogs.ams.org\/phdplus\/files\/2018\/12\/IMG_0141-1.jpg?resize=1024%2C729&amp;ssl=1 1024w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/blogs.ams.org\/phdplus\/files\/2018\/12\/IMG_0141-1.jpg?w=1280 1280w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/blogs.ams.org\/phdplus\/files\/2018\/12\/IMG_0141-1.jpg?w=1920 1920w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Charlie arrived five weeks ago, right after the first big snowstorm of the season. He gave us a scare on the way out and wound up in the NICU for a few days, but he was home by Thanksgiving. He&#8217;s been a fairly easy baby so far, and we&#8217;re enjoying figuring out exactly how to handle him. Once we&#8217;ve mostly got it down, he completely changes and we start over. Kinda feels like school all over again.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ve been on leave since the second week of November. I almost felt like I needed the time off more before the birth than after. During the last month of pregnancy, getting put on bedrest turned from my worst nightmare into a secret dream. Often I could only sleep an hour or two a night. I wasn&#8217;t in pain, was even still walking to work a few times a week, but the exhaustion was too much. I was barely keeping my head above water.<\/p>\n<p>I think this every semester, and it always turns out ok, but this time I mean it: these are going to be the worst student evaluations of my career. And they won&#8217;t be entirely undeserved. I swear I did my best.<\/p>\n<p>My department picked up the last weeks of the semester for me. They are getting paid, but given that they&#8217;re receiving the pro-rated adjunct rate, they might as well be doing it out of the kindness of their hearts. I think the transition went reasonably well but maybe people are saving their complaints until I&#8217;m back. The school sent me a lovely congratulatory philodendron the other day, so I&#8217;m taking that as a sign that nobody went straight to the Provost at least.<\/p>\n<p>At five weeks out, I&#8217;m starting to actually look forward to starting back at work, though I&#8217;m very thankful it&#8217;ll only be part time to start. The most intellectually stimulating thing I&#8217;ve done since I left work is figure out how to clear up diaper rash. It&#8217;s a change of pace to be sure. And a not unwelcome one, but it wouldn&#8217;t be sustainable for me for long. No shade to the stay-at-home parents out there at all &#8211; it&#8217;s an incredibly hard job &#8211; but it&#8217;s just not one I&#8217;m suited to. I&#8217;ve written before about how poorly I do off a schedule. I guess I do have a schedule now, but it&#8217;s one created by my son, and he doesn&#8217;t let me see it in advance.<\/p>\n<p>So that&#8217;s pretty much what I&#8217;ve been up to. My first December without grading in a decade, but somehow my days are still packed. Good luck to all of you as you finish your grades and slide into the holidays!<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div style=\"margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px;\" class=\"sharethis-inline-share-buttons\" ><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Well. That happened. Charlie arrived five weeks ago, right after the first big snowstorm of the season. He gave us a scare on the way out and wound up in the NICU for a few days, but he was home &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/blogs.ams.org\/phdplus\/2018\/12\/23\/hello-from-parental-leave\/\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<div style=\"margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px;\" class=\"sharethis-inline-share-buttons\" data-url=https:\/\/blogs.ams.org\/phdplus\/2018\/12\/23\/hello-from-parental-leave\/><\/div>\n","protected":false},"author":91,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2447","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p3c1jI-Dt","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ams.org\/phdplus\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2447","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ams.org\/phdplus\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ams.org\/phdplus\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ams.org\/phdplus\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/91"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ams.org\/phdplus\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2447"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ams.org\/phdplus\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2447\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2450,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ams.org\/phdplus\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2447\/revisions\/2450"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ams.org\/phdplus\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2447"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ams.org\/phdplus\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2447"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ams.org\/phdplus\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2447"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}