{"id":31784,"date":"2017-06-30T12:30:28","date_gmt":"2017-06-30T17:30:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blogs.ams.org\/mathgradblog\/?p=31784"},"modified":"2017-07-12T11:48:12","modified_gmt":"2017-07-12T16:48:12","slug":"survive-grad-school-woman-stem","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.ams.org\/mathgradblog\/2017\/06\/30\/survive-grad-school-woman-stem\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Survive Grad School as a Woman in STEM"},"content":{"rendered":"

There are certain moments from grad school that will always stick with me: the conference in Boston where my usually quiet lab mate opened up to me; the nights I spent drinking cheap beer with my closest friends in the grungy, student-run bar; the time (okay, times) I cried in my advisor\u2019s office. And you can be sure that I won\u2019t ever forget my general exams, whose residual panic-inducing effects I can still feel, months later.<\/span><\/p>\n

I value these memories because they add texture to my life as a graduate student, providing joy or throwing it into relief. <\/span><\/p>\n

But I\u2019ve also had experiences that extend beyond the normal ups and downs. I listened, trying not to cry, as a professor told me that I was too slow to do theoretical work. (A year later, I won an NSF grant to do just that.) I gritted my teeth as I, the only woman in the room, was asked to sort exams into piles, while my male colleagues graded them. These experiences didn\u2019t make me stronger, happier, more resilient, or more confident. They just wore away at my well-being. <\/span><\/p>\n

Learning to survive graduate school as a woman in STEM\u2014or any minority,<\/span><\/a> for that matter\u2014means finding ways to manage the effects of constant, subtle antagonism, because that antagonism won\u2019t make you a better scientist, mathematician, or engineer. <\/span><\/p>\n

Here are seven things that will.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span><\/p>\n

1. Reevaluate your definition of a mathematician. <\/b>Before I came to grad school, the word \u201cmathematician\u201d meant someone like my favorite college professor. She was creative, smart, and did good work on fascinating problems. She happened to be female, but that was beside the point\u2014or so I thought. When I arrived at grad school, my perception of who a mathematician was <\/i>changed. The mathematicians I interacted with were now mostly white men and I didn\u2019t understand how significant this was until I stopped believing that I could be a mathematician. It took some reexamining of unconscious beliefs before I realized that if I wanted to become a mathematician, I\u2019d have to start thinking of myself as one. <\/span><\/p>\n

2. Stop using the word \u201cgenius.\u201d<\/b> Except to describe an expertly crafted cappuccino, I\u2019ve all but eliminated this word from my vocabulary. It\u2019s usually well-meant, but it reinforces troublesome perceptions of mathematics as a profession. For example: it takes a genius to do good math. Or: math comes naturally to a select few, and the rest of us shouldn\u2019t bother. Or: if I\u2019m not a genius, I shouldn\u2019t do math. The last plagues women in particular<\/span><\/a>, because we don\u2019t usually think of ourselves as geniuses. Let\u2019s start reframing the profession in terms of effort, creativity, perseverance, and intense focus\u2014because that\u2019s really what it\u2019s all about. <\/span><\/p>\n

3. Start your own alt-boys\u2019 club. <\/b>By which I mean: foster a supportive, engaged community that stands opposed to discrimination and celebrates one another\u2019s achievements. Tap into your network of friends and family whose values run counter to those of the \u201cboys\u2019 clubs\u201d found in so many university\u2019s math programs: people who champion openness, diversity, celebration of achievements. Kindness. The world needs more of these communities, and in grad school, so will you. It’s difficult to be a minority in your field for a number of reasons, but the one I have struggled with the most is the isolation that comes with long hours of solitary research in a male-dominated environment. Weekly, wine-soaked dinner dates with my cousins, rock-climbing adventures with my chillest, flannel-sporting friends, and phone calls with my big sister have been my saving grace in grad school.\u00a0 \u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

\"\"<\/a>

Woman in STEM starter kit<\/p><\/div>\n

4. Find an involved advisor\u2026 <\/b>Because being in grad school is hard, and being a woman in grad school is harder. A good advisor will do his or her best to share some of that burden with you, coming up with creative ways to help you succeed. My advisor had me practice my generals presentation in front of a giant, fluffy stuffed panda to shake my nerves. (Humor helps!) A good advisor will also recognize that none of us do our best work in isolation, and will do his or her best to foster a group that\u2019s present, supportive, and actively engaged in one another\u2019s success. <\/span><\/p>\n

5. \u2026 and a good therapist. <\/b>Even if it isn\u2019t clear why so many graduate students struggle with their mental health, the fact of the matter is that they do. And even if you aren\u2019t one of them, a therapist can help you cope with the pressures of research and exams. My therapist gave me strategies for getting through my generals, like using meditation<\/span><\/a> to dispel the fight-or-flight response that kept kicking in when I practiced my presentation. She also helped me reframe stressful situations with humor and insight. Who couldn\u2019t use more of that? <\/span><\/p>\n

6. Accomplish something. <\/b>Something outside of your project and coursework, that is. Research can be a long, slow grind, and a sense of progress, accomplishment, and belonging will keep you motivated. Try music. Teaching. Volunteering. Anything that gives you purpose and confidence. Particularly if you\u2019re a minority, grad school won\u2019t build up your confidence\u2014a prospect even more insidious than it sounds, because it\u2019s necessary to have confidence in order to tackle hard problems. This is, in my view, one of the most baffling paradoxes of academia: by undermining confidence and undervaluing graduate students, the academic hierarchy produces worse academics. <\/span><\/p>\n

7. Know why you\u2019re in it. <\/b>When I told my advisor that I was interested in pursuing science writing and editing, it was a game-changer. I felt more comfortable talking about my career goals with my peers, and stopped feeling like an impostor. Plus, my advisor has since found writing and editing opportunities for me to hone those skills. Whatever your career goals are, communicate them\u2014especially if they are unconventional. Mentors and friends will know which opportunities to send your way; in turn, those opportunities will keep you focused, motivated, and enthusiastic. We all come to grad school from different places and for different reasons\u00a0and that is<\/em> something worth talking about. <\/span><\/p>\n

<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

There are certain moments from grad school that will always stick with me: the conference in Boston where my usually quiet lab mate opened up to me; the nights I spent drinking cheap beer with my closest friends in the … Continue reading →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

<\/div>\n","protected":false},"author":136,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[2,121,139,223],"tags":[173,310,311,109],"class_list":["post-31784","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-advice","category-diversity","category-grad-school","category-grad-student-life","tag-advice","tag-strategies","tag-support","tag-women-in-math"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p3gbww-8gE","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ams.org\/mathgradblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31784","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ams.org\/mathgradblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ams.org\/mathgradblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ams.org\/mathgradblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/136"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ams.org\/mathgradblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=31784"}],"version-history":[{"count":12,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ams.org\/mathgradblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31784\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":31856,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ams.org\/mathgradblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31784\/revisions\/31856"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ams.org\/mathgradblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=31784"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ams.org\/mathgradblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=31784"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.ams.org\/mathgradblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=31784"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}